mean+girls

Topic: Mean Girls Convenor: Donna Linton, Lawrence Woodmere Academy, dlinton@lawrencewoodmere.org Participants Paul Barsky || || Jane Eisenstadt || jeisenstadt@claremontprep.org || Doc Wilson || Everett.wilson@mastersny.org || Jon Richer || jricher@ecfs.org || Bob Feinstein || bfeinstein@theschool@columbia.edu || Anthony Bowes || abowes@ross.org || Edith Thurber || ethurber@cathedralnyc.org || Sandy Gannon || sgannon@bhmsny.org || Lynne Laukhuf || llaukhuf@gfacademy.org || Luis Ottley || lottley@ecfs.org || Headlines:
 * Use your AUP when there is cyber-bullying
 * We don’t have control over phones
 * Dialog with parents so parents can talk to their children
 * Anonymity of technology
 * Jump on anything that is happening- expose it
 * Push back by investigating- that is an action, even if there is no consequence
 * Be pre-emptive
 * Parent chats 2X/year\What students can say/do:
 * Say “ I don’t like what you are doing.”
 * I told you once, I will have to talk to an adult.”
 * Talk to an adult.
 * Sensitivity training with diversity coordinator for the bullies
 * Move- RAT PACK (male bullying)
 * Core values
 * Who are your allies?
 * Forgiveness and revenge
 * Revenge lights up the same part of the brain as drugs and sex
 * Forgiveness is not intuitive
 * How do we learn this wisdom to stay in community?
 * Find things to publically highlight the great things the not-so-popular kids have done
 * Whom on the faculty do they respect? Why? Ask that faculty member to talk to bullies
 * What does it mean to be a good friend?
 * __Schools Where Everyone Belongs__
 * Post Secret- posting notes about what students think about a topic anonymously